The Love Doctor :

Do girls love dating fat guys? This weeks question comes from a girl who thinks a chubby guy is in love with her but her good looks is preventing him from dating her.

Dear Doctor Love,

I met a guy last summer, the day before my flight back from a vacation in my home country. We talked all night and he got my number. That night he didn't try to kiss me, because I didn't give him the signal. Anyway, he was sad that we couldn't go out the day after.

When I got home we were in constant contact on Facebook. Months passed and it was December. I had bought a flight ticket to my home country, and when I told him, he was so happy and eager to see me. But I got very sick and had to cancel my flight. We were both sad about that, but agreed that we would see each other again in April when I was supposed to go back again.

Months passed and I started to work out in the gym a lot. He is a chubby guy so he teased me, calling me "The Hulk". Anyway, in March I bought my flight ticket and told him that this time I was coming. He was very excited and said that it was the highlight of his day. We were talking regularly, and 4 weeks before I had to go he told me that he couldn't wait to kiss me. Then, all of a sudden 1 week after, I got a message saying that he had met a girl just a couple of days before, and that he wanted me to know because he wouldn't want to lie to me.

Shocked, I responded immediately that it was okay and that I was happy for him. I didn't want to lose my dignity so that was the best impulsive answer I had. And that's where the conversation ended, and we didn't contact each other after that. When I came in my home country I contacted him saying that I thought we should meet because we'd talked so much about it for the past months, and I thought it would be stupid not to be friends since we'd been in contact for such a long time. He responded that he couldn't meet with me but that it had nothing to do with me. He had feelings for this girl. He hasn't responded to my messages since. But he is still listed as "Single" on facebook. What happened? My cousin saw him a couple of days ago and says he has become fatter.

Elsie

Hello Elsie,

Thanks for contacting the best love doctor on earth! I’m frank and straight forward - unlike your “wannabe lover” I don’t hide my feelings. I’ll be straight forward and tell you the truth about the two of you. To begin with your friend and yourself need to know that some girls like fat guys.
Now, you meet a guy in your home country just for the first time, you chatted forever and he could have kissed you if you gave him the signal? Wow! Which country is this? Maybe I can relocate there. I believe STD rate is low over there. Anyway that kiss didn’t happen and I must congratulate you for not giving him the signal.
 

You were in constant contact on facebook for months until December hoping you could fly back home and then…. booom! You dropped the bad news. You were sick. Sorry to hear that and I am thankful you’re well. This must have broken his heart. Having to chat on facebook for over six months and he knowing the kiss was not going to happen.

This guy then mastered courage to tell you he’ll kiss you when he sees you? To you my fellow brothers never ever tell a girl that. Wait until you see her then you can kiss her - period. What was your response when he promised to kiss you? Did you jump up and down hoping to kiss him too?
Now your friend is a liar from this point and I’ll tell you why.

He had face booked you for over 6 months and has expressed interest in you (by the promise kiss) and within a week he meets someone else and forgets all about you? He definitely had a girl all this while. Again chubby or fat guys do have girlfriends. In fact, dating a fat guy is fun and lots of girls confirm that.
You acted maturely by wanting to remain friends. As long as I know you have been just friends all this while. I do not know what happened, maybe you made him feel uncomfortable with your new looks or probably you teased him about dating a fat guy. It is okay if you teased him because he started to call “The Hulk”. That green muscular ugly looking character?

This guy is mean and deserves no attention from any lady. Letting your cousin spy on him is not the best thing to do. Ignore him and have fun with friends and family in your home country. Since you’ve been exercising and looking like Halle Berry you’ll have no difficulty in attracting new guys. And please don’t give signals too early. Maintain your dignity as always – all the best.